Going to Foreign Country to meet Girls

I have found over the years it is a real treat to travel to foreign countries, and I have been over the course of my life in Asia, Europe, Central and South America, Canada, India, but after my divorce in 1999 and being that I was in the Navy that was it, traveling abroad became something of interest to me to search for a wife, as finding a wife in the USA had completely lost it's appeal to me completely, after 8 years of marriage devotion and after seeing how much foreign girls cared about their lives and their families and how American women take for granted a good man, with a good heart, with good and serious intentions, as I thought, I found it hard to avoid going to a foreign country to find a mate as I thought.

I started my journey by going to South America to Columbia, met some very nice and beautiful Columbian girls in Cartegena who were very passionate about finding a man.  I dated girls and later I found out the women are used to men in Columbia macho men they say machismo who date for sex and in their minds dating meant having sex with other girls so In not understanding their culture then I could understand now why they were jealous if I had mentioned anything about what I was doing the next day if it included meeting others they assumed I meant women, or about visiting someone overall I found them to be clingy but passionate women who want to love just one man and very loyal.  I have found now after understanding the expectation that it's best not to mention or even elude to dating other women when traveling to another country because even though I had intentions to find someone true and ready to have a family, I couldn't do it without being discrete...  and so I have learned it's better to have an alternative reason for going to a foreign country other than finding a wife because most women who live in other countries deal with dominant men who have otherwise shown they cannot be faithful and that is their view of most all men until you prove them wrong.

I know now that just looking for women is like just looking for anything, it's futile in that if you are keyed in on or focusing on it, it never really happens unless you remembered where you left what you were searching for and even then it's only by odds being in your favor, so when I learned that feature of searching, I stopped searching for women and learned that people fit into a purpose into your life, don't take them for granted and given time they will stay in your life some how some way until they are ready to recognize you.

I heard a story once and that it is relevant and I found that it is true, that is if you were to ask people who you meet anywhere you go, on any given day, there is at least one or many people who fit into your purpose in life in one way shape or form, and if we stop and talk to those people we find things in common that people can help us with in areas we are searching for help but we have not taken the time to find out, people so to speak who have come our way, or crossed the paths of our lives.  So too, I feel that people come into our Area or surroundings that we attract in life for the purpose of making ours and their lives more meaningful and purposeful.  In this thought I learned to continue my course in life doing my pursuits and in pursuing my life to keep an open mind in my journey, I have come to know that we are on a journey and with more seriousness towards people especially those who I have loved in the past present and future, to understand the reason they are in my life.  I do not take people for granted anymore and do not create new relationships with people so easily until I know them well enough to determine if they are there for good or not....   people have a value and in life and in general I strive now to increase a persons value, self worth, and communicate with them....this was not always the case for me, I had to learn it the hard way.....

If you want to meet cool and fresh babes anywhere it's ok, there are plenty but don't expect them to stay in your life and not especially just because of reasons you think, people you come into contact with which are not part of the plan for your life or purpose can disappear unexpectedly but if they were part of the plan for your life, you will remain in contact with that until that person until both acknowledges the purpose and plan to for each other as intended.  Or you refuse them in which case you will always wonder why someone loves or cares about you.  People either prolong knowing the happiness that comes from you and that which is waiting for them....or they become disillusioned about it because they never really tried to understand it and don't think about it and pass it off being addicted because they can't see the heart or the purpose involved in the dynamic of that person.

There is a reason and a purpose for everything in our lives and I believe this is the case when dealing with relationships and women in general.  Sometimes these people see signs about it and mention it, sometimes they don't know, and don't acknowledge it..  Along the way, we have relationships that are purposeful and meaningful and some not but there is really at any one time only One person who was sent to Love us at a time.  Make no confusion, many people can fake loving you or pretend for a while, but whether they do love or not love if their soul purpose did not contain the plan to love you and they were not purposed to love you, it will always be temporary and the break-up can hurt if that's what we wanted to believe.  People who love you over the course of time will come to love you anyway if their purpose ultimately was to be a part of your life and love you.  True Love will stand the test of time, break-ups, disagreements, misunderstandings, friendships and arguments gone bad, because it's effortless when it comes from the heart and full of energy..... 


I have more to say and will continue my story in my next post......